All personality traits, including confidence, live in the brain. The brain is made up of specialized cells called neurons. These neurons communicate with each other via synapses (the connection between neurons). New synaptic connections are constantly being formed. Also, old synaptic connections are constantly being adjusted. Every time we learn or experience something, the experience and choices we make help shape us. Sometimes what we learned becomes reinforced, and it becomes “hard coded” as part of who we are. Other times we may experience it and forget it. All of these things are happening in our brain at a cellular level. If we make a decision to be more confident and we practice it, we are reinforcing the learning. The more someone practices anything, the better we become and the more likely it is to become second nature.
Below are things that can help boost your confidence
- Groom yourself: Getting a new haircut or combing/brushing your hair in a new way can change your self-image. If you don’t want to do that, it is amazing how a simple shower and a shave can help improve your self-confidence and self-image.
- Dress nicely: When you dress nicely, you feel good about yourself and feel presentable.
- Think positive: Changing your negative thoughts with positive thoughts can make great things happen. For example, a runner may train for a marathon and a negative thought may come into mind saying, “this is to hard, let’s get coffee instead.” This is like a computer virus. Once you are aware that these types of thoughts are toxic, you can mentally be ready to stomp on them and destroy the thought.
- Act positive: One of the best ways to display confidence is to assume that everyone you interact with already likes you and finds you attractive. This is one key to develop self-confidence. It is one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting positive, you change yourself, one action at a time. When you talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions, you will start to notice a difference.
- Stand tall: Standing tall with head and chin up not only improves your confidence but yourself image. People who stand tall are more attractive.
- Smile: When you smile, Neurotransmitters called endorphins are released. The endorphins are responsible for making us feel happy. When endorphins levels are increased, the stress hormone cortisol is reduced. Smiles are contagious and set off chain reactions. A simple smile can change the mood in any situation and also makes you feel better about yourself.
- Exercise: During exercise, endorphins are also released. Endorphins interact with receptors in your brain and reduce the perception of pain. It gives a similar effect as pain medication (e.g. morphine) since endorphins bind to the same receptors. This is often described as “euphoric,” aka “runner’s high.” Walking or going to the gym 3-5 times a week will make you feel better about yourself. In the process losing 10-20 lbs will be a major confidence booster.
- Eat healthily: Processed foods, sodas, and sugary foods are toxic to your body. Cutting down or eliminating this will have a huge effect on your body.
- Good sleep: Sleep has many benefits. Many research studies have proven that people who sleep 7-8 hours remain at healthy weight, have lower risk of serious health problems (e.g. diabetes and heart disease), think more clearly, get along better with people, and have reduced stress and better mood.
- Help someone else: When you are able to make a difference in someone else’s life it enables us to forget about ourselves and feel grateful for what we have. Instead of constantly focusing on your own weakness, by helping others you’ll see your self-confidence grows automatically in the process.
Dr. Christian has extensive experience in medicine specifically in neurology, psychiatry, and behavioral science. His experience and understanding of the mind and the human body has allowed him to create many types of systems to improve one’s confidence in a variety of situations, including but not limited to public speaking, socializing, dating, sales, marking, and trader psychology.